I was reading over the notes and thinking about the class discussion about the Dance of Anger. I found it interesting because I have seen the 'styles' and the societal influence on arguments I have had with my friends, family, boyfriend, and other people's arguments. I can pick out a friend that I have for each 'style of dance'. I know my friends very well and so of course I know how they react to an argument and anger. I also know how I react. I know there are healthy ways to express anger, but controlling it can be hard when you are in an argument with another very angry person. It seems like everything escalates. So when you get to the point where the Dance of Anger comes in, i feel sometimes a person may resort to more than one style. I have felt like a Pursuer when I 'just wanted to talk about things', or also a distancer when I need a break from that person and just can't listen to them talk anymore. I'm sure I have been a blamer, I'm only human. I believe anger is a difficult emotion to deal with, especially when two people are angry at each other at the same time. Things can get messy, and you might not want to deal with it anymore. But, I think the best way to diffuse the anger is to step back from the situation and get back to reality, remember why you are angry and try to fix the problem. One must also be reasonable, and as calm as possible. At the same time, this is always easier said than done.