Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Communication and Intimacy
So, I got a cool opportunity to talk to a friend about his relationship with another one of my friends. The girl was totally shielded from him when they were considered "dating" so they broke up. But, then when they were apart she could totally talk to him as a friend and be close again. So, he was so confused and asked for some insight. And I got to talk about how the key to intimacy is communication - not just this physical attraction and attention. So, they need to be able to communicate in a healthy way. Then, I talked with him about identity and not going in to a relationship not knowing yourself - maybe she doesn't want to be in a relationship because she isn't ready and doesn't want to go in the relationship with baggage but with a clear identity. This will enable her to be able to communicate effectively and help the other person. Also, committment, a piece of family strengths, can be something that people are afraid of or just not ready for. It's easier to have no committments, but when one wants to enter a relationship, committment is not a feeling, it's not meant to be easy, but it's a choice. So, overall, it's ok to wait, let time play this out and let God grow each person seperately in their identity and when the timing is right for the relationship, they will be better prepared to fully committ equally and in a healthy way, building eachother up!
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Wow! That is really cool that you were able to apply all that from class. I have had many situations as well where I have been able to implement something from this class. For example when we were talking about, oh shoot, I don't even remember what we were talking about exactly but it was when Dr. Hollist showed the Dove video on Youtube and just a week or so later we were talking about disciplinary practices in my Intro. to Women and Gender class and that was an ideal example of how what we see is not reality so I emailed the link to my teacher and she used it in class! After taking this class I hope that I can continue to apply things that we have learned and I hope I will remember the things about marriage and raising children through the time that those events arise in my life. For now I will just continue to apply things in my daily life and recommend this class to my friends. I have a friend who is a freshman and undecided on her major and she showed me what classes she is going to take in the fall and she had CYAF 280: Family Science on the list. I was so excited and told her that it's an awesome class! I asked her if she had come to any conclusions on what her major should be yet and she said she's thinking about child psychology so I think this will be a good class for that as well:) This class helped me solidify what my major should be (I am now a Family and Consumer Science Education major) and I hope it will help her solidify her major as well:)
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