Thursday, March 26, 2009
A little late.
This post is a little late. I've been trying to keep my head on straight between breaking up with my boyfriend of 3 years (who I lived with), moving apartments and starting a new job. It has been a hectic few weeks. Now everything is resolved and I'm moving into my one bedroom apartment in less than a month! I doubt I will ever have roommates again. I'm not going to go into detail about my living situation drama. But I will share what I have learned from this. People change. Sometimes people change for the better and a lot of times, people change and grow apart. Living with someone you are close with, puts a whole new spin on your relationship. It can pull best friends apart and ruin relationship. Do not take moving in with someone lightly. It seems to me, the best situations are when the roommates are just acquaintances. That way, they don't hang out a ton and get on eachothers nerves. However, that's just my oppinion.
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First of all I just want to say I am so sorry this happened to you. I know you must be going crazy and even though I don't know you I feel for you and I hope that you find the strenght to get thru this and learn from it.
I thought I'd respond to your blog because it has everything to do with our cohabitation discussion. Basically it can either make or break a couple. I have been raised that it is not morally right for an unmarried couple to live together but for some, it's to the upmost importance to see how you live with someone. Your case shows that sometimes it is important to live with your partner because like you said people change...and frankly wouldn't you want to find that out before you commit your life to that person? Cohabitiation can be a very stressful situation but it also can give a couple time to learn to love the flaws or decided they can't live with their partner..before they are legally wed. Wouldn't it be less stressful to know you can live with the other before you come home from your honeymoon? I think it would be benificial to have this information.
So what it comes down to is this...right now you are probably hurt and confused as to why things changed when you moved together..but I think a better way to look at it is to be thankful that you found this out before your relationship took the next step-don't you think?
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