Influence lecture

I found class to be very interesting today. I guess once you have learned about healthy and destructive influence you really don't know you are doing something unhealthy. i use coercive influence all the time but it seems to be healthy and normal to us. For example if you do this for me i will do this for you. or better said if you don't do this particular thing then i won't do for you. I'm not just talking about sex but sometimes that does come up. Also, in my relationship we have a really balanced influence on just about everything. We try to share most of the power in all areas but one of us is sometimes better equipped to handle a certain situation than the other and we know and accept that. One thing that seems to come up in our relationship quite often is that one of us is very passive and the other is aggressive so probably since i am aggressive and he is passive, i kinda make a decision before he even has a chance to put in his input. sometimes it sparks a diagreement but mostly i think that he doesn't like the responsibilty of decision making anyway.