Thursday, March 5, 2009
Dog = Future?
So, last time in class - tuesday - we talked about singleness and the "games" that are played and deciding which ones were constructive and which ones were destructive. Well, didn't really think about this, but one person talked about how one of the games is when one person gets the other person a dog. She also talked about how this can be a test in how each person will handle and treat future childre. I kind of laughed at the idea - I mean, how does getting the other person an animal shift committment or test the other person about their future together? Well, one of my good friend's boyfriend got her a dog recently. They have been dating for a long time, and so I talked to her about how this changed her perspective on the relationship. I was actually blown away because my friend said she'd thought a lot about being a mother. How she gets so frustrated with the dog, sometimes just ignores the little guy and tells it to shut up. She is a good "parent" to the dog, but those little instances make her scared to be a parent! I never would have thought that. I would say most of the time it would be a constructive intimacy game, depending on the couple and the motive behind the action. If the animal is simply a gift and the intention is not out of insecurity or testing and proving love, it can be constructive. What do you guys think?
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I don't necessarily think that giving your significant other giving you a dog means that they are for sure testing you by any means. My boyfriend and I have been together for a significant amount of time and I have always grown up around animals. I have 5 dogs back home and I miss them SO much! Living in the dorm has been so hard for me. The main reason being I HAVE NO ANIMALS! (I thought about sneaking a cat in but didn't think it would work) My boyfriend and I will be living together next year and I'm so happy to say, he's buying me a puppy! I have been so excited and I do not think that it is a test. Another example is my sister's boyfriend bought her a dog before he left for the war to keep her company. A little different circumstances but I think that dogs are wonderful and should not be used to "test" your significant other. I guess it matters who you're with and how they view animals also.
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